{"id":747,"date":"2009-10-02T09:31:18","date_gmt":"2009-10-02T17:31:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/?p=747"},"modified":"2009-10-02T09:31:18","modified_gmt":"2009-10-02T17:31:18","slug":"n-term-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/2009\/10\/02\/n-term-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"n-term relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Much conversation has been had across the last week on the subject of short-term versus long-term relationships. More specifically what you&#8217;re looking for from the start, not necessarily what you&#8217;re willing to live with, such as accepting complacency in finding a relationship that is comfortable but not what you really want. I realized recently that I knew what I wanted, but I hadn&#8217;t given much thought to the labels. From the start, I&#8217;ve always been looking for a relationship with the hopes it would work out in the long-term. I missed the concept of a short-term relationship because it didn&#8217;t make sense to the rest of me. I realize now that <a href=\"http:\/\/www.asofterworld.com\/index.php?id=486\">not everyone<\/a> I&#8217;ve dated has been on that path. A couple conversations lately have been poking at the exterior of this. One about breakups where someone says &#8220;something just isn&#8217;t right&#8221;, and can&#8217;t finger it, but wants out immediately rather than discussing it. Fear of their own feelings? Guilt for having feelings for someone else?<\/p>\n<p>Even when I crossed the bridge of evaluating what I wanted from a relationship rather than assuming the path was obvious, I seemed to have missed this. Having a checkbox on the stranger personals for both short and long term relationships (among others) went over my head with only a &#8220;huh&#8221;. So now when I&#8217;m peeking between the blinds of my feelings toward others, I&#8217;ve been somewhat carefully considering what it is that they really want, how exactly they want to live their lives and how they are now. The quote from last night about <a href=\"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/?p=745\">emotional imperatives<\/a> is stuck in my mind. Carefully, as openly as possible (not easy! hard work!), I&#8217;m working towards conversing on these subjects more.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Much conversation has been had across the last week on the subject of short-term versus long-term relationships. More specifically what you&#8217;re looking for from the start, not necessarily what you&#8217;re willing to live with, such as accepting complacency in finding a relationship that is comfortable but not what you really want. I realized recently that [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/747"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=747"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/747\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":748,"href":"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/747\/revisions\/748"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=747"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=747"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.loftninjas.org\/rants\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=747"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}