old shit that nobody wants to talk about got dredged up today. After the anxiety passed, I feel like I’m looking at a pile of unidentifiable artifacts on a beach, pondering its making.

If you’re unwilling to identify and/or accept your defensiveness, you put those close to you in an uncomfortable situation of not knowing what is safe to talk about. ‘I can not believe you would think that about me’ is a sign of that trap. We must consider the thoughts of those close to us with humility, lest we start to believe in our own superiority.